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Question: I don't ever feel like sex, think about it, or even get turned on ever. Answer: Thank you so much for writing in with this. I want to say firstly that you are a not alone and this is a situation many people find themselves in. Given that I don't know the history here I will cover some of the reasons that are presented to me by clients and hope that it is useful for you. If it has always been like this perhaps you may be asexual.

People who are asexual have little or no interest in sex. They are often confused about who they are attracted to because they don't really feel anything in the way of attraction. Asexuality is considered a sexual orientation and research reports that approximately 1 per cent of the population identifies as asexual.

There are suggestions this figure could be higher as self-selected research samples are less likely to include asexual people. It's important to know that many asexual people have relationships and sex. Often they have sex because they know it is important to their partner.

Responding to a partner's advances or simply wanting to feel close to their partner can be good enough reasons to have sex. Another option could be that you have a sexual personality type that is more responsive to others rather than one likely to initiate or suggest things. For some folks sex is all about the eye contact and skin contact and feeling connected with their partner. For others it is about passion and experimentation. For others it's a stress relief or a form of validation.

And for some, it's a responsive thing. Women want sex Brave it were left up to them to initiate there wouldn't be any sex, but if their partner suggests it then they can arouse and have a nice time. A lot of people don't realise that when things are not going well in your personal life, it will impact your sex life. Anxiety, stress or depression will flat-line your libido. And so will the medications that treat these things — in fact many meds can impact your libido.

Women want sex Brave

If you are experiencing any of these things, be kind to yourself and understand that none of them are very sexy and expecting yourself to feel sexy at times when you are under duress is not reasonable. It may be focusing on cuddles and knowing that it doesn't have to lead to sex. It may be making some time to talk and connect.

I remember a lovely year-old female client who came to me saying she had been with her boyfriend for three years.

Women want sex Brave

She loved him and fancied him but she had become uninterested in sex and didn't know what to do about it. After some conversation we worked out that she had had a change in diet and exercise and also they were navigating a stressful financial situation. By simply changing up her diet and taking her dog for a walk every day she found her libido came back.

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One of the biggest roadblocks to sex is when one person doesn't feel connected to or supported by their partner. Be it helping with the domestics, or the kids, or feeling that its OK to approach your partner for support with things that may be happening in your life. If there are difficulties communicating with your partner it stands to reason that it may also be difficult to get to sex. Sex can be a barometer for what is going on in the relationship. When people feel close and supported it is easier to get to sex. And remember that sometimes when people feel far away from their partner they will try and reconnect through sex.

Take a pulse check. How are things in your relationship? Can you communicate well? Are there concerns or issues that you are not addressing? Remember that no person is a mind reader and you need to use your words to bring up things that need addressing. When it comes to desire people are influenced by what they see in the media and that is nearly always spontaneous desire.

It's that lusty feeling of wanting to be with your lover, to explore them, to try things with them and it's helped along by limerence. That ease of connecting and getting to sexy times slows down when limerence ends. This is where the other type of desire can come in — responsive desire.

This is the type of desire that we have when our partner does something and it can Women want sex Brave us from not being interested in sex to being open to it. It doesn't look as passionate or lusty as spontaneous desire is portrayed. Sometimes it can simply be a decision to have sex. Responsive desire it is no less valid that spontaneous desire. Just because it's a different type of desire doesn't make it bad.

I think a lot of people use spontaneous desire as a barometer for their own sexual attraction or desirability. Understanding there can be many different on ramps to get on the sexual highway can really help us take the pressure off and enjoy connection when we get to sex — regardless of how we got there. If you have been having sex that doesn't float your boat, or is all about your partner's pleasure, or sex that is uncomfortable or causing you pain — then it stands to reason that sex becomes less interesting to you.

I have met many people who think that their partner should just know what they like when it comes to sex and then get disappointed when they don't enjoy sex. Sometimes they are too afraid to tell their partner what they like and sometimes they don't know what they like and are hoping that their partner can work it out for them. It can be particularly difficult to talk about these things if they have been going on for a long time. But that's not an excuse to keep enduring sex that is uncomfortable, painful or just not working for you.

Often I encourage people to spend some time on their own exploring their own body. Self-exploration can be the first step to Women want sex Brave your arousal and what feels good. Understanding these things makes it easier to experience desire and be interested in sex. ABC Everyday helps you navigate life's challenges and choices so you can stay on top of the things that matter to you.

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Print Cancel. There are many reasons that people can find themselves disengaged or not interested in sex. Have you always felt like this about sex? It doesn't bother them if they are not having sex or have not had it in a long time. They can find sex dull and boring. Just as we have different personalities out of the bedroom, we have them inside the bedroom too. What's happening in your life? Understandably it can be tricky to explain this to a partner.

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